I don’t give a damn what others think of me!
Maybe this isn’t exactly what you want to say when you hear people saying bad things about you or when they don’t give a damn to you. Many times, we feel like less loved, or not loved at all which results into some serious frustrations too. We never wish to be lonesome, do we? Almost all people want to be loved by others, no doubt. However, to be loved by others is one of the very complicated tasks to fulfill. Sure, in order to be loved, you need motivation and you need to love yourself first. But once you know how, I bet being loved by others can be very easy for you.
To know what it takes to be a lovable person, you need to know some underlying keys that may sound so simple (yes, simple they are) yet very important. There are some secrets, of being loved by others. Well, it’s no secret anymore as it’s been revealed already. But of course these points not only serve as some key guidelines which will increase your adorability but also a deep love from within. And it’s very crucial to have good understanding of the lovability! After all, we all want to be loved. Love and trust only can make this world a better place to live in!
So, here it goes, the four secrets of lovability:
1. Open Your Heart
The first thing you need to do in order to feel more loved and more blessed is nothing but just to open your heart. You need to start meaningful conversations from within and out to establish close relationships with others. Love yourself first, and then love others. Remember if you are not loving yourself, don’t even wait for others to love you.
Open your love valve and let there be free flow of love, mutual trust, and positive vibes. Interact with people as much as possible. Just be there for others as much as possible. Your presence and your interactions can be very cherishing moments for others. So, come into the moment and take the pressure off the situation. Don’t try to fill silences with chatter. Rather, have good interactions and maintain the good balance in your relationships! Be open to those who care for you.
Your genuine smile in your face reflecting the true emotions from heart can strengthen the bond you have with people around.
2. Open Your Mind
Do not cultivate the idea that people don’t care and that’s the reason you don’t care. Don’t be negative about loving others and being loved from them. Always tell yourself a different story. The story that there’s a lot of love in the world and there’s plenty to go around. Yes, you deserve it!
Realize that we all want to be loved without judgment, condescension or pity. So, don’t be judgmental, arrogant or despicable. Always commit to give such love to others. Always make conscious choice to be understanding and compassionate.
Learn to socialize and make conversations with new people. Don’t make one special friend. Treat all of them equally. The more people you have in your circle, the better it is. Don’t limit yourself to the same 4/5 friends. So, branch out to new people or even the old buddies that you haven’t been in touch with for long hiatus. Interact with them and be nice to them. If they sound brilliant in some points, don’t forget to compliment them. Understand them better. Who knows you had more in common with them than you thought ever! Talk to them, so that they will know you better, and love you more!
3. Open Your Eyes
We hardly notice it but sometimes we get so caught up looking for romantic love that quite often we forget to appreciate our friends and family who are always there for us. They are always there offering their support to us.
Guys, wake up, and realize that we are so incomplete without them. So, value the people who care for you. Take an inventory of them. Trust me, there are likely far more than you realize!
Be honest with yourself and try to figure out what you’re not being able to give…! You want people to visit you more frequently, perhaps. But my question is, have you pinpointed ever that how often you visit them? Maybe you are expecting people to ask you about your whereabouts? Now the question is are you asking them about theirs? Always give the sort of love/conduct you want to receive from them. Appreciate their efforts and try to notice little things, the things that have big impact in your relationships.
Now let me ask you one thing. Do you offer help without it being asked of you? If not, do it. But again, do remember that friendship isn’t always a constant one-way street, and treat accordingly.
4. Open Your Ears
Well, by ‘open your ears’, I mean to say ‘listen to others genuinely’. The more people love you, trust you, or like you, the more often they are likely to come to you seeking help to sort out certain complications in their lives. When this happens, just listen to them. Be a genuine-listener. If you are able to listen to their problems, of course they will love you even more.
So, always listen to the problems of those who care for you and make humble efforts to help them out.
>>Of course, the human desire to be loved is deep inside and it’s all natural. But you need to understand that giving is the key to getting. If you give warmth, of course you will attract warmth. If you project coldness, you’ll receive the same back to you!
There can be (for sure ARE) many brilliant guidelines that can enhance our lovability actually. I just made my genuine-effort to pinpoint few of really useful guidelines that can help you being loved more and more. I do hope, this can be of some help to you guys. Please feel free to drop your comments or anything right below. I appreciate your valuable words for me.